How an Apology Letter Improved a Mother Daughter Relationship

With 2013 right around the corner, I’m quite aware of the swift passage of time. Having that in mind, I’ve decided that deepening family connections will be one of my primary health goals for the New Year. I know that focusing on the positives, expressing gratitude, and spending more time with those we love will increase our emotional wellbeing.

Family dynamics can be complicated, as you very well may know. During the years when our kids were growing up there was lots of excitement and a few challenges.  In the video above I explain why I decided to write an apology letter to my daughter and what I gained from the experience.

Here’s what I’ve learned:

  • Taking responsibility can set you free
  • Healing begins with a shift in attitude
  • Letting go is a gift to adult children

What better time to apologize than at the start of a new year. If you need help with tips on writing an apology, feel free to ask in the comments section.

How does it make you feel when someone apologizes to you?


Editor's Note: Phyllis Goldberg is an active senior and family therapist at Her Mentor Center. She has set a goal to visit nine different locations over the next year and deepen her family relationships. You can follow her story every Wednesday at Real Health. She looks forward to talking to you about healthy aging and healthy families.

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Rosemary and Phyllis
Active seniors and 40+ year friends

Hi, we're Rosemary Lichtman, a psychologist, and Phyllis Goldberg, a marriage and family therapist, working now as coaches and enjoying life as active seniors. We've been friends and colleagues for ne More



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